Black, Dark, Missed, Fallen – What did you feel after hearing these words? Most commonly, something negative! Are they really negative? – No, they are just another colour, another possibility, or another dimension. It’s just that our assumptions and illusions make them look so negative. If we are ready to spread our dimension a bit more, we can clearly visualise the hidden beauties inside all these coated negatives.  Likewise, hearing the word ‘Failure’ might sound negative for most of us. But trust me, it is no lesser than success; and it definitely extends our skills and experience even more than success does.

Failure and People

A person who has seen only success, or mostly success, might not learn or experience some key things in life, and hence for me that person is not anyways fully successful. One of the biggest advantages of failure is that, it clearly allows you to gauge the people around you – Accurately.

Let’s do this experiment – Just for an instance, fail once big time, and observe who around you are enjoying it mostly. Yes ofcourse, there will be your enemies, rivals and competitors in that list. But to your surprise, that list will also contain some of your close friends, your blood relations, your drinking partners, your selfie buddies, your gossip mates & your shopping mates too.

Also, observe who around you are not so happy about it, or even care about someone like you failing. To your more surprise, there will be people with whom you have never spoken properly, whom you have once disrespected, whom you judged to be egoistic/arrogant, or whom you never wanted to be friends with.

So what it conveys? Not everyone close to you likes to see you succeed; And not everyone away from you are willing to see you fail. In other words, your close circle is not made good enough with people who are well wishers for you, or you missed including some really good people in that list by thinking that they are your opponents, or strangers, etc.,

Are you getting my theory right? Let the mind think over it..

What happens when you lack this clarity on people?

This will make things more messy for us. You would start trusting, focusing and respecting some set of people more, but you won’t get the same in return because they are not in genuine terms with you as you actually think.

And the same concept even applies and extends for one’s relationship too. What if we don’t invest our love on a right and trustworthy partner? Its like showering tons and tons of love on a flower, which is just made out of a paper. It will neither grow, nor give you a fragrance which a flower actually does. They won’t give their love back to someone deserving like you, rather they will save it for those ‘Road-side Romeos and Juliets’ only. My apologies – I’m intentionally making a stressed and strong point here, because it is that important to have a clarity on person whom we are choosing to live with.

 Why failure and people?

Infact, I can talk about a lot of advantages which a failure could bring in. But in this article, I purposefully limited it only towards its relation with people so that it gets the weightage and importance which I actually mean here. It is very important for one to structure her/his close circle clearly and promptly, as it plays a major role in one’s successful life.  As per me, one can achieve everything in life if this is assessed and set right in the first instance.

People who are honest, real and wishing good for you – Allow only them to easily break the wall and enter in to your world. And the rest can be restricted just to Facebook, Whatsapp or Instagram only.

The great Thiruvalluvar said this few thousands years ago

You can keep talking a lot about the connection between failures and people. Infact, I have written here a bit more too. But all this has been said in just two lines by Thiruvalluvar in his holy book ‘Tirukkural’ (Meaning Sacred Versus) a few thousand years ago, as below:

கேட்டினும் உண்டோர் உறுதி கிளைஞரை

நீட்டி அளப்பதோர் கோல்.

 In English (as it sounds):

Kettinum undor urudhi kilaingarai

Neeti alappadhor Kol.

Meaning:

There is a big advantage in our failures and setbacks too. It is a scale with which one can clearly understand and gauge the people and relations around.

Thank You